Kirsten's Corner!

Kirsten talking about something we all share, feelings of vulnerability.

What If Your Emotions Aren’t the Problem?

The Cost of Looking Strong

From a young age, many of us were taught to suppress our difficult emotions. Sadness? Weak. Fear? Irrational. Anger? Unacceptable. So what did we learn to do? Hide it. Push it down. Stay in control. Look strong.

The problem is… that doesn’t make the feelings disappear.

They just go underground—festering, leaking out in sideways behaviours, or turning in on ourselves as low self-esteem, anxiety, or depression.

What’s Actually Going On?

You might say things like, “I’m not good enough,” “I’m too emotional,” or “I should be stronger.” But those thoughts aren’t truth—they’re patterns. Defence strategies. Survival mechanisms built to protect you when you were younger and didn’t have the tools or support to process your emotions.

Now, as an adult, they keep you stuck.

Underneath all the shame, self-criticism and fear is something simple: a feeling that needs to be felt.

Vulnerability Isn’t Weakness

Vulnerability gets a bad rap. But the truth is, it’s not about falling apart. It’s about being real.

When we start to honour our difficult emotions—when we stop judging ourselves for feeling sad, angry, lost, or scared—something shifts. That emotional energy, once trapped, starts to move. And you start to feel lighter, stronger, more you.

It’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about coming home to yourself.


A New Way Forward

Therapy isn’t about endlessly digging through the past. It’s about learning to meet yourself with compassion, curiosity, and courage. It’s about noticing the beliefs you’ve carried—I’m not enough, I don’t matter, I’m too much—and realising: you don’t have to live like that anymore.

When we create a space where your emotions are welcome, where vulnerability is safe, and where your story is held with care—you change.

Not into someone new. But into more of who you already are.

Ready to feel different?

We’re here to help.

Start your journey today.

Kirsten Dahlerup – The Therapy Lounge

OUR Treatments

It's Time For Change

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If you are looking for rapid, genuine and long lasting change, we are very confident we can help.

This rather bold statement is based on over 40 years experience working with over 8,000 clients across a wide range of emotional and relationship issues, addictions, phobias and more.

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HAPPINESS IS AN INSIDE JOB!

Could you be more connected and more present during the good times, so you appreciate and enjoy them more?

Could you be more resilient and more positive during the tough times, so you feel less angst and more resourceful?

And could you feel more fulfilled and happier in the 80% of your life you spend in between?!?

If the answer to any of these questions is YES, we are very confident we can help you live an emotionally healthier life and as a direct result, a significantly happier and more abundant life.

Therapies

Genuine, Rapid & Long Lasting Change

Hypnotherapy

Versus traditional psychotherapy, clinical hypnotherapy can be a more direct and potentially authentic means to heal old emotional injuries and change long term beliefs and perspectives.

CBT

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a form of therapy that emphasises the important role of critical thinking in how we feel and behave. CBT focuses on changing current thoughts and feelings rather than the past.

Emotional Coaching

Coaching focuses on engaging, motivating, challenging and all importantly empowering another human being to be more courageous, more authentic, more confident and ultimately, much more more!

NLP

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) has been described as a software manual for the brain. It is a proven model for supporting and accelerating human performance, especially in the areas of business and sports.

Our TEAM

Beauty & The Beast!

8,000+
Clients Seen
25,000+
Sessions Undertaken
40,000+
Hours Of Therapy
The Details

How We Work

Consultation
Free

Why not have a chat - it's free after all! We will ask some questions about you, your history and your specific circumstances. We will tell you whether we can help and if we can, more specifically how.

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1 - 5

Sessions last up to 2 hours. The number of sessions will depend on the issue(s) you wish to resolve. For example - curing phobias requires 1 or 2 sessions whereas some addiction work may require up to 4 or 5.

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We charge £300 per hour. Payment is due at the end of the session by card or bank transfer. Where we deem appropriate and where we can, we are happy to provide flexible payment terms or a discount.

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Cancellation Policy

We will always be sensitive to clients needs and if we can change appointments around to avoid charging, which we usually can, we always will. That said, please be aware that any booking is subject to a rigid 24 hour cancellation / rearrangement policy. If we do not receive a minimum of 24 hours notice of a cancellation or re-arrangement, we reserve the right to charge for the appointment in full.

Confidentiality

A lot of our potential clients are concerned about confidentiality but just like doctors and lawyers, maintaining client confidentiality is of utmost concern and sharing anything outside of their sessions would be a violation of our code of ethics. We do not digitalise any of our client notes and the paper versions remain locked away until they are shredded a few months after we have finished working together. Over the years, when a client has been very sensitive to the issue of confidentiality, we have been more than happy to sign legally binding Non Disclosure Agreements.

Guarantees

Other than for smoking cessation, we do not offer any guarantees. As you will have seen via Trustpilot, our approach proves remarkably effective so if you come to us with a real determination to succeed, you'll have an excellent chance of rapidly achieving your goal.

CLIENT STORIES

Our Favourite Client Quotes

"I can never thank you enough for what you’ve done for my husband and I Steve. You've helped us see the world in colour again. We will always be eternally grateful."

"Today, I am loving myself again and I am no longer hurting myself. This is worth more than I ever thank Kirsten for"

"This man! Words alone do not give him enough praise. If you are looking for a kind, intelligent, caring, thoughtful, and brilliant therapist, Steve Burns is your guy."

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