What If You Are Your Worst Inner Critic?
We all have one — that voice in our head that judges, belittles, and chips away at our confidence. I call mine Tarquin. He’s smug, sly, and oddly chimp-like. Wears sunglasses indoors. Struts around like he owns the place. And smokes like a chimney.
His greatest hits?
- You’re unworthy of love or success.
- You’ll never be good enough.
- You don’t belong.
- Don’t even try - you’ll fail and look like an idiot.
- Everyone else has it together. You don’t.
Charming, right?
Now here’s the kicker: if someone said those things to someone you love - your partner, child, best mate, you'd tell them to f*** right off. So why do we tolerate that level of cruelty from ourselves?
In this short vlog, I introduce you to Tarquin — and show you how I keep him in check. Because your inner critic is not the truth. It’s just a scared, insecure part of you pretending to protect you by holding you back.
Here’s the simple process:
- Become aware of your inner critic’s voice
- Give it a name and identity (trust me, it helps)
- Notice when it shows up
- Use logic and evidence to challenge its script
- And most importantly — meet it with compassion
Your inner critic isn’t evil. It’s just afraid. But with awareness, boundaries, and a little humour, you can stop letting it run the show.
Watch the vlog to meet Tarquin and learn how to deal with your own inner critic.
